‘The spark’ is a phrase that’s used a lot when it comes to romantic relationships. In fact, you might have felt ‘the spark’ at the beginning of your relationship, and as a result, the early days were very exciting for you and your partner. However, like every other flame, ‘the spark’ needs to be kept alive by both partners. When you think of intimacy, you probably imagine physical attraction and sexual relations, however, intimacy is so much more than that. It encompasses both the physical and the emotional.
At the beginning of your relationship, you just can’t seem to get enough of your partner. You want to see them all the time, and they are constantly on your mind. Naturally, romance blossoms, and intimacy is high and effortless.
However, as time goes on, life sort of gets in the way. Routine and the stress of everyday living make it almost impossible to sustain high levels of intimacy without effort. It takes practice, time, and effort to keep intimacy levels high in any relationship.
Here are 5 ways to strengthen the intimacy in your relationship, and keep your flame burning hot.
1. Do exciting things together
As your relationship develops, you are bound to form a routine. However, routines become boring. Shake things up by making an effort to do really exciting things together, such as climbing a mountain, going on a vacation, taking a special class together or going bungee jumping! It will provide a much-needed breath of fresh air in your relationship and help you discover new things about each other.
2. Have deep meaningful conversations
Talk about your relationship, your current life, plans for the future, and your emotional state. Try as much as possible to be vulnerable with your partner and let them see the real you. Lack of communication and bottling up negative emotions can lead to resentment. Explore the things that make your relationship work, and strengthen your commitment to each other. Having a therapist facilitate these conversations can make them really fruitful and rewarding.
3. Be thoughtful
Intimacy isn’t always about the grand gestures. Something as simple as writing your partner a love letter or stocking up on their favorite snack can make them feel incredibly loved and appreciated.
4. Make couple’s time
It can be really hard to focus on one thing in today’s digital world, and sometimes we unconsciously pay more attention to our gadgets than to our lovers. At least once a week, turn off all electronic devices and participate in an activity you both enjoy. You could watch a movie, cook together, or massage each other. This gives you time to enjoy each other and connect on a deeper level.
5. Express gratitude
Every night, before bed, express gratitude for one thing your partner did during the day, no matter how small or random. This will help them feel loved and appreciated. If you would like to improve intimacy in your relationship and strengthen the bond between you and your partner, please book a relationship therapy session.
Start Working with A Couples Therapist in Grand Rapids, MI
Cultivating your relationship spark is easier said than done. You and your partner deserve support in learning new ways to build intimacy in your relationship. Great Lakes Wellness Counseling would be happy to offer support from our Grand Rapids-based practice. Start your therapy journey with our team of therapists by following these simple steps:
- Contact us or call (616)202-1910 for a free consultation.
- Make an appointment for the first therapy session.
- Start modeling healthy relationships for your teen!
Other Services Offered by Great Lakes Wellness
Couples therapy isn’t the only service offered by Great Lakes Wellness. Our team is happy to offer support with a variety of mental health services including teen counseling, Christian counseling, men’s counseling, women’s counseling, and child therapy. We also offer assistance for depression and grief. Visit our blog for more support today.