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A close up of a snow covered field in the light of the rising sun. Learn how a therapist in Grand Rapids can offer support this holiday in dealing with anger. Search for Christian counseling in Grand Rapids, MI or mental health counseling near me for support.For many of us, spending time with family can be a grab bag of emotions. While you may feel love and familiarity, there are also decades-long dynamics between you and your family members that may not be the most healthy. Your family might treat you like the teenager they remember, and you might revert to that role when you’re around your family without even realizing it.

There could be many things that make spending holiday time with family a challenge. Old family conflicts, harbored resentments, and spoken or unspoken disagreements can make you dread seeing them again. If you have trouble managing your anger when you’re around your family, read on for some tips on how to keep your cool.

Define How You Experience Anger

People experience anger differently. Some might get more aggressive, some might withdraw, and some internalize the anger. By being aware of how you experience anger, you can better recognize when that emotion is starting to develop inside you so you can take control of how you respond.

Rehearse Responses

It’s very common for families to ask intrusive or inappropriate questions. You might have a busybody aunt who always asks about your relationships, or maybe your sister is constantly bugging you about starting a family. Come prepared with rehearsed responses so you won’t be caught off guard.

Set Boundaries

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It’s important to set boundaries with family. If a family member is aggressive or rude to you or is always making you the butt of their jokes, your silence acts as approval of their behavior. Because you don’t protest, they think what they’re saying or doing is fine with you. Furthermore, pretending their bad behavior is acceptable only gives them more room to continue the bad behavior, or to get worse. Set boundaries with family and let them know when things they’re saying or doing are not okay with you.

Cut the Visit Short

Sometimes the best option to keep the family peace (and your sanity) is to spend less time. If your family tends to have snacks or drinks before dinner, show up just in time to join the family for dinner at the table. You can also opt to skip dessert or coffee and leave a bit early.

Family relationships are complex and deep-rooted, and family are often the ones who know best how to push your buttons. While managing your anger can be challenging, learning to maintain control over your emotions is a healthy act of self-love. It will not only keep you sane, but it will keep your family relationships unharmed and intact.

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Start Working with A Therapist in Grand Rapids, MI

If you’re having difficulty navigating complicated family relationships, a licensed therapist can help. As a therapist, I would be happy to offer support in coping with anger and making the most of your holiday season. Start your therapy journey with Great Lakes Wellness by following these steps:

  1. Contact us or call (616)202-1910 for a free consultation.
  2. Make an appointment with a caring therapist.
  3. Start enjoying the holidays!

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We understand that you may experience more than one mental health concern at a time. This is why we are happy to offer support with a variety of mental health services including child therapy, Christian counseling, and men’s counseling. Other services offered include women’s counselingteen anxietydepression, and grief as well. Please feel free to visit our blog for more support today.